At any stage you lose a #parent(s), you will still have many questions but it’s very important at that stage to flip the script in the right direction and decide if you’re going down the regret or #gratitude route. Whichever you choose is bound to change you in ways you can never begin to possibly imagine.
Am sure all reading this have some experience or know a friend or someone that has passed through or going through this tough and challenging experience we all must face at some point in life.
We have to always take time to love deeply and give it our all so that when #God calls any of our loved ones, we will have no regrets because we would have given our very best during the times we spent together building memories with them.
Whenever my #friends lose a loved one, I always let them in on one secret; “there is no going to come a time when you won’t think about this person. There is really nothing like moving on. People are #irreplaceable. None can ever fill their place in your life. No one can ever fill a mother’s place when she is gone. No one can feel a child’s place when it’s gone. Yes, you may find things to fill the gap. You may find distractions. But whenever you think of these people, you will know only they could have filled their place.”
And that’s something they really never tell people about death. The world simply keeps sending you #condolence messages. They keep saying; “it will be alright.” And probably expect in a few weeks, you have moved on. But it never happens.
I remember interviewing my friend Juliana Kanyomozi some years back. I asked how she had healed from the death of her son. She responded; “You don’t heal from the loss of your child. It’s the most #heartbreaking thing to go through for any parent. My world literally came crashing down. You only learn how to survive each day by the grace of #God. My experience has been a harrowing and personal one. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about Keron. I thank God for strengthening me.”
If you lose a mother, you will always think of her. The frequency could be reduced. But not your memory of her. You will keep attached to that smile; sometimes scents will even remind you of the loss. Grief never stops; it’s something that finds somewhere to settle in your life, you simply learn to soothe it better.
Today I read a quote from Twitter on Grief; “Grief never ends…but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is neither a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith…it is the price of love.”
To all those who have just lost loved ones, this is my little secret to you……..
#copied #RipMum #ripdad #eddieinspirationalbites #mentorshipmatters #realtalk #realfriendship #mentoring #lifestrategy #lifecoach
What is life going to look like without your unconditional love, friendship, and genuine Counsel My Mum!
We love you but I guess God loved you more!!
No words can express what is going through my soul.
I thank you for the man I have become today!
“Grief is just love with no place to go.” “Grief is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.”
#Mentorshipmatters #eddieinspirationalbites #lifecoach #RealTalk101 #lifestrategies @MensLifeCoachEd